You firmly believe that you hate your life? But what if I told you that it’s not always like it seems to be.

Especially regarding that topic, I believe that there are many and many more cases of people who don’t actually hate their life, but their circumstances.

Let me explain.

Your Life ≠ Your Current Life

A strong sign that you don’t actually hate life is that you reminisce over the good ol’ times.

Nostalgia basically.

This means that you can actually enjoy life and that is proven. Depending on the reasons for your hurt, you might be able to achieve new good times again.

And before you consider yourself a hopeless case, know that many problems that are thought of to be unfixable can be fixed. History shows that.

But I know how hard it is. If you have read my first post, you know that I am chosing the most permanent of all solutions myself. That doesnt change the fact, that I know that many, no!, most people can save themselves. Hell, even I could if I really wanted that.

Note however that I said save themselves, not can be saved. The issue is that only you can save yourself. Luckily others can assist you, I hope I can – I really hope 🙂

The point here is that you are your life. And you are very flexible by nature. If you dont like what your life is like today, you can change it tomorrow. Obviously sometimes people get seriously stuck. That requires greater effort. I will go into that in many articles as it is too large of a topic to completely unfold it here. Also we have to mention that you like me, we are victims of a carefully curated system that is indeed designed to keep us stuck. So not too much fault to you!

You Are a Pessimist

Now this might sound like problem itself. And it is. But here come the good news: It is something rather easy and fast to fix, having a great impact on your life!

You would be surprised at how fast you can become a substantially happier person, just by changing pessimism to a neutral point of view. Yes, even go for optimism if you can.

I have seen plenty of people with a pessimistic viewpoint. It is sad really, because it always seemed so obvious to me, that these folks are mostly suffering themselves, not their lifes! Only worse is, that you can’t tell them! Because anytime you would show them the positives, that they put so much effort into fending off and ignoring, they end up being stubborn.

Actually they are getting it in a literal sense, but simply refuse to accept and really look at the facts you have given. The issue seems to be, that they like to be the victim and pity themselves.

You heared right, people actually do enjoy and find comfort in being a victim and painting everything black. Even literally, have you not seen how many people love to wear all black clothing? Notice how deeply depressed people tend towards black as the color of choice?

And I understand that, I have been there too. I am in no way looking down – don’t get me wrong. But I have surpassed that and I see it clearly. This seems to be something we adopt as little children and carry on to our teenage and adult lives. We are victims expecting somebody to come and save or comfort us. This is not something obvious, not something that you think aloud in your head probably, it is deep inside our subconscious mind. Most adults however are not getting the reaction or help they desperately need to get.

And that is understandable. Whoever you expect to help you is living in the same world, it’s not easy for them either. Even if they are doing well, don’t expect somebody to risk getting dragged down into sadness trying to save another person. And many people have made negative and fruitless experiences trying to help others who said they wanted help but didn’t actually accept any help. This is draining as the supportive person, you learn to take a step back.

What actually helps is to look at the facts and realize that we are solely responsible for lifting ourselves up after falling. Realize that self-pity is a choice, a choice we can avoid to make – creating possibility for positive times instead of sad ones.

You Got Lost in Attachment

This one strikes many people. One example: Somebody is deeply upset about not having a certain possession. Let it be a sports car. All of somebodies friends are quiete well of financially and that makes somebody feel jealous, like a loser, inferior, angry, sad, like the black sheep, like an outside. Worse is when others pour salt into the wound.

• How many people have you seen like that?
• How many people commited things they regretted because of that?
• How many people killed themselves over that?
• How many people would kill another to change that?

You get the message. It’s a major world problem, and a silly one. Possession is really not supposed, by nature, to have such a strong effect, but it seems to hit many people right where it hurts them the most.

First of all, realize it’s not the car itself. It is what comes with the car that you want. It is the looks and admiration of people. It is to be perceived a certain way, it is to perceive yourself a certain way. It stands for success, declared by society, that most blindly believe when it dictates. To listen to society is nothing but a mistake. It will leave you shattered and half dead even before you consider dying for real – some say this is by design. But that shall not be the topic for today.

What fixes this is awareness. I, as the author, personally, am depressed and down bad. But never ever about a car or a house. Not anymore. I have been there as a teen. I won’t go back. In fact, I can’t go back even if I wanted to. What once you really realized, you won’t oversee again.

Something that can help you clearly is to take some time and really ponder about your desires, and desire itself. Ask yourself the questions you want to hear the least.

Beware – you will discover that you are not who you thought you are, and trickful you are on top of that. This is a quite joyful and fruitful journey to go on.

Looking Ahead

There are of course many more than those three signs. And each of them can be explained over many pages in greater detail. It is, as most things in life, quite complex. Life itself is quite complex. Such is the nature of life. Such is the challenge of life.

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